Nothing grieves my heart more than this. How did this happen, we ask? That is where the Soul searching begins. Fortunately, we have a forgiving God. I pray, not only for my myself, my own kids and family, my friends, my Church... in this regard, but for our whole American Culture which is now thoroughly immersed in this consequence. I too believe that what we see today in the deterioration of the American family, for the most part, is irreversible, barring miracles, on every level, like the one we saw last night with the confirmation of Amy Coney Barrett to the Supreme Court. There is always Hope. But the Supreme Court is not the ultimate Judge. God is.
I've got to be honest. I'm seeing all of this in my family and I'm just bewildered. I've been a stay at home mom and thought that doing that would give my children a good life and values but it turns out since I've accepted Jesus as my savior that they've pretty much been my persecuters. I never would have thought this would happen but it is. I'm the enemy of my family and I'm fighting trying to save my family and I fear I'm losing this fight. I'm now having to make a decision that will change my life forever. My marriage I'm pretty sure is over after 28 years because I want to follow Jesus ways on marriage and my husband is a rebel more than ever. I only married him cause I felt in my heart it would be forever but now that I want a godly man he's not willing to even hear about it so I'm going to have to make a decision that will change my life forever. Do I stay because I made a covenant with God when I got married or do I leave and live the life I know I can't have with him.
Melissa, I'm praying for you and your family. I'm sure your praying but your family is under attack and its time to war for our families. I'll add you to my prayer list so that God will give you direction and peace in this situation. I know this can be hard when we look at the situations around us but remember, words are very powerful so speak the Word over your marriage and family. I'll be praying for you and your family.
I'm reading Pastor Jimmy's book The Four Laws of Love and I'm learning so much. God is good and faithful, He won't let you down.
Hi Melissa, I'm also praying for you. I can't imagine the pain you're experiencing with your family and marriage. I know you admire Pastor Jimmy and wanted to encourage you to reach out to Gateway Church (if you don't attend there... that's OK) They can direct you to a pastor you can talk to. My husband is a marriage and family pastor, so I just want to feel safe to reach out to someone that will help wraparound you. It would be so hurtful feeling like the enemy of your family, now that you are a follower of Jesus. I also wanted to give you the website for Jimmy's marriage ministry to connect with their resources & referrals. https://marriagetoday.com/coaches/resources-and-referrals.html
I felt led to download The Four Laws of Love by Jimmy Evans. I have had BIG issues with marriage so a good Biblical resource never hurts. This is a great book!! I can see why so many have been helped by this way through from the Scriptures and this Biblical understanding of how to be successful in marriage, time tested. It’s a keeper, and a life-long help, at any stage, for navigating through our most important earthy relationship-marriage. We could only hope that America at large would reach out for such a good guide. What a difference it would make.... Come Lord Jesus, and change our World. Right the wrongs we ask and pray, for our good and Your Glory!
Thank you so much but I honestly don't know if my husband will even look at the site or anything that has to do with religion. I'll look into it and with everyone's prayers I pray that God will help us get back to where we can love one another and not feel like we're coming apart at the seams.
Prayer changes things, it really does. Even if your husband will not go to Counseling, you can still go by yourself. It helps. Because I left my husband after 30 years of marriage, people often ask me, why did you leave? The answer is I never would have left had the Lord not made it very clear to me that it was His will for me to do so. More likely He wants you to stay. But if He wants you to go you will hear directly from Him about it and He will give you perfect peace about your decision. Keep praying. You have chosen Jesus and He will make your way straight. Our prayers are with you.
Good morning Melissa. I am sorry to hear about the troubles in your marriage. I would just bail just yet. Live by example and put out brochures or tracks. Your love and commitment will win him more then anything. Pray and hold on to Gods promises for a marriage. Suggest Couseling and he can even pick with who. Go together though. They can twist stories. I am praying for you.
Melissa, many of us are praying and going to battle in the Spirit for your family. I also suggest doing what Kari said. Reach out to gateway for some help. Sometimes being in your own head, alone, can make it extra difficult. Get some help from a trusted counselor to just even help process your thoughts. Focus on the Family is also a great resource to reach out to. You can talk to someone on the phone to get some guidance. You are not alone.
Thank you Pastor Jimmy, I have been listening and reading your blogs as well as the "Tipping Point" book for a few months now. I completely agree with your teachings and am praying that I can continue to grow in my understanding of the scriptures, especially as they relate to the end and my personal walk.
I'm divorced after 20 years. It was both of our faults. My kids suffer from it. He married the girl he left me for and I have a boyfriend. Unfortunately I let him live with me because he doesn't have any other place to live. I don't think I want to marry him because I don't know if I trust him. He cheated on me the first year we were together but I forgave him. I know its better to be married but I don't know if he's right for me. I support him financially. It's a bad example for the kids. I have prayed about it but I'm not sure what to do. I'm seriously torn.
Sorry guys, I'm running a couple of weeks behind the rest of you. I'm trying to catch up tonight. Had to turn the TV off. This mess with the election has got my down, so thought I'd come here for some Spiritual pick me up.... I believe like Pastor Jimmy, that this is the apostate (falling away) and in the world we are living in, the nuclear family is a thing of the past. Breaks my heart to see how being married and having a family isn't important in this millennial age group these days. I was married for 42 yrs when my husband passed away, and keep thinking these kids today have no idea of what they are missing out on, besides what happens to their babies who don't have a mom & dad at home. Again I pray Come Lord Jesus, come quick...
Nothing grieves my heart more than this. How did this happen, we ask? That is where the Soul searching begins. Fortunately, we have a forgiving God. I pray, not only for my myself, my own kids and family, my friends, my Church... in this regard, but for our whole American Culture which is now thoroughly immersed in this consequence. I too believe that what we see today in the deterioration of the American family, for the most part, is irreversible, barring miracles, on every level, like the one we saw last night with the confirmation of Amy Coney Barrett to the Supreme Court. There is always Hope. But the Supreme Court is not the ultimate Judge. God is.
I've got to be honest. I'm seeing all of this in my family and I'm just bewildered. I've been a stay at home mom and thought that doing that would give my children a good life and values but it turns out since I've accepted Jesus as my savior that they've pretty much been my persecuters. I never would have thought this would happen but it is. I'm the enemy of my family and I'm fighting trying to save my family and I fear I'm losing this fight. I'm now having to make a decision that will change my life forever. My marriage I'm pretty sure is over after 28 years because I want to follow Jesus ways on marriage and my husband is a rebel more than ever. I only married him cause I felt in my heart it would be forever but now that I want a godly man he's not willing to even hear about it so I'm going to have to make a decision that will change my life forever. Do I stay because I made a covenant with God when I got married or do I leave and live the life I know I can't have with him.
Melissa, I'm praying for you and your family. I'm sure your praying but your family is under attack and its time to war for our families. I'll add you to my prayer list so that God will give you direction and peace in this situation. I know this can be hard when we look at the situations around us but remember, words are very powerful so speak the Word over your marriage and family. I'll be praying for you and your family.
I'm reading Pastor Jimmy's book The Four Laws of Love and I'm learning so much. God is good and faithful, He won't let you down.
It is time to war for our families. You are so right.
Hi Melissa, I'm also praying for you. I can't imagine the pain you're experiencing with your family and marriage. I know you admire Pastor Jimmy and wanted to encourage you to reach out to Gateway Church (if you don't attend there... that's OK) They can direct you to a pastor you can talk to. My husband is a marriage and family pastor, so I just want to feel safe to reach out to someone that will help wraparound you. It would be so hurtful feeling like the enemy of your family, now that you are a follower of Jesus. I also wanted to give you the website for Jimmy's marriage ministry to connect with their resources & referrals. https://marriagetoday.com/coaches/resources-and-referrals.html
I felt led to download The Four Laws of Love by Jimmy Evans. I have had BIG issues with marriage so a good Biblical resource never hurts. This is a great book!! I can see why so many have been helped by this way through from the Scriptures and this Biblical understanding of how to be successful in marriage, time tested. It’s a keeper, and a life-long help, at any stage, for navigating through our most important earthy relationship-marriage. We could only hope that America at large would reach out for such a good guide. What a difference it would make.... Come Lord Jesus, and change our World. Right the wrongs we ask and pray, for our good and Your Glory!
Thank you so much but I honestly don't know if my husband will even look at the site or anything that has to do with religion. I'll look into it and with everyone's prayers I pray that God will help us get back to where we can love one another and not feel like we're coming apart at the seams.
Prayer changes things, it really does. Even if your husband will not go to Counseling, you can still go by yourself. It helps. Because I left my husband after 30 years of marriage, people often ask me, why did you leave? The answer is I never would have left had the Lord not made it very clear to me that it was His will for me to do so. More likely He wants you to stay. But if He wants you to go you will hear directly from Him about it and He will give you perfect peace about your decision. Keep praying. You have chosen Jesus and He will make your way straight. Our prayers are with you.
Kris, What an encouragement your story is for so many hurting in their marriages! Proud of you for seeking the help you needed & fervent praying.
The encouragement you can receive @church right now in the middle of this storm might just be for you. We are praying for you!❤️❤️❤️
Good morning Melissa. I am sorry to hear about the troubles in your marriage. I would just bail just yet. Live by example and put out brochures or tracks. Your love and commitment will win him more then anything. Pray and hold on to Gods promises for a marriage. Suggest Couseling and he can even pick with who. Go together though. They can twist stories. I am praying for you.
Melissa, many of us are praying and going to battle in the Spirit for your family. I also suggest doing what Kari said. Reach out to gateway for some help. Sometimes being in your own head, alone, can make it extra difficult. Get some help from a trusted counselor to just even help process your thoughts. Focus on the Family is also a great resource to reach out to. You can talk to someone on the phone to get some guidance. You are not alone.
Reading this hurts my heart. I've seen and felt the tears of the children, my own children. I just cant understand how a father can leave.
Thank you Pastor Jimmy, I have been listening and reading your blogs as well as the "Tipping Point" book for a few months now. I completely agree with your teachings and am praying that I can continue to grow in my understanding of the scriptures, especially as they relate to the end and my personal walk.
I'm divorced after 20 years. It was both of our faults. My kids suffer from it. He married the girl he left me for and I have a boyfriend. Unfortunately I let him live with me because he doesn't have any other place to live. I don't think I want to marry him because I don't know if I trust him. He cheated on me the first year we were together but I forgave him. I know its better to be married but I don't know if he's right for me. I support him financially. It's a bad example for the kids. I have prayed about it but I'm not sure what to do. I'm seriously torn.
Sorry guys, I'm running a couple of weeks behind the rest of you. I'm trying to catch up tonight. Had to turn the TV off. This mess with the election has got my down, so thought I'd come here for some Spiritual pick me up.... I believe like Pastor Jimmy, that this is the apostate (falling away) and in the world we are living in, the nuclear family is a thing of the past. Breaks my heart to see how being married and having a family isn't important in this millennial age group these days. I was married for 42 yrs when my husband passed away, and keep thinking these kids today have no idea of what they are missing out on, besides what happens to their babies who don't have a mom & dad at home. Again I pray Come Lord Jesus, come quick...